Unmistakeable Creative is a podcast that has significantly influenced my view on creativity and self acceptance. Here are the lessons that have had a profound impact on how I work and how I get up in the morning.
Link to Episode: A Journey to the Crossroads of Should and Must with Elle Luna
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Sometimes, what you want is the best thing to never happen.
Getting into that school may only solidify you on your path of pursuing something that someone else told you to do. In rejection, you are forced to ask yourself if you really want it. I find that at this tumultuous period of our early 20s, many of our trajectories are largely guided by other people’s expectations. Remember that getting rejected in any place in life isn’t the end of the world, but rather a moment to reevaluate what it is you want to be working towards.
It will seem hopeless so long as you keep telling yourself that it is
There’s no getting around the fact that it will get bad, and you will fail. But telling yourself that it is too late or that all is lost will not help yourself and it certainly won’t help you change your position. At any point in life, there is rarely a place where you are completely incapable of making some incremental improvement.
Keep experimenting, as it will give you hints on where you should spend your time.
What you naturally gravitate towards will undoubtedly contribute to what you devote your life and your time to. No every hobby will lead to direct career opportunities (you are lucky if even a couple of them do), but in experimenting and playing will eventually show you what makes you tick and where you are of most value to others. making those few pieces that truly resonate means that you have to try a lot of things that will probably not work out. It’s important to allow yourself the space to experiment while deferring judgement of how it looks.
Your work is not a reflection of yourself
I hear of too many artists that are beating themselves up as they try to embody their work. At most, their work should embody them, not the other way around. The work should show what an artist wants to say, but that won’t always be fully received by the viewer. Having a bad performance or a subpar showing is absolutely not a reflection of the artist’s capacity or worth in society. And you can get out of this mindset by reminding yourself this fact in the bad times as well as the good times. You are not success and you are not failure; you are an individual that will experience defining moments at both ends of the spectrum.
When trying something new, the last person that you have to convince is yourself.
Making excuses and pinning blame on the expectations of others is a known quantity; it is easy to default to someone else’s opinion when looking for a reason to say no. But remember that if you really want something, you will make time for it in spite of what everyone else will say. Are you saying that if there was no one offering their opinions on your work, you would be wholeheartedly jumping into this career path without a second though?Before you blame someone else for ‘making’ you do something, ask yourself if part of you lashing out out of your own fear of this path.